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Kenzoku friends are family.

 What do Kenzoku and friendships have in common? Friendships have a significant purpose in our lives but often because of busyness, can be unconsciously taken for granted. Powerful friendships encapsulate a cohesive bond of commonality, between people who do not necessarily share the same DNA. They exude unconditional support in needed times of encouragement, confirmation, and empathy. Kenzoku, the Japanese term for Family, also indicates the deepest chemistry of friendship.

A Kenzoku friend is someone who's immense love for you and your well-being, will catch you when you fall, correct you when you are wrong, and indulge you in occasional escapades while keeping it between you, them, and the four walls. This real friend is not someone who's full of superfluities and follies at your beckon call.  Such expectation is considered usury, camouflaged as friendship and someone is always at a disadvantage. With your Kenzoku buddies, you can just be, without fear of judgment or ulterior motives. There's truly no such concept as judgment, betrayal or jealousy between Kenzoku friends. The unbreakable bond that keeps these buddies together withstands such pettiness, and forgiveness is swiftly sought and received. Kenzokus are the confidants you grow up with, make along the trajectories of your life, and will cry with you without knowing why. At best, they are the extended brothers and sisters, whom will keep you accountable to the goodness of your character. 

The flip side of this friendship is the unforgivable betrayal of boundaries and trust. Often this deep-cut betrayal will cause Kenzokus to go through the five stages of grief, pinned by Elizabeth Kϋbler-Ross. Over time, the betrayed friend becomes a bit apprehensive with new acquaintances, and sadly, guarded living just may become their new normal.

 In conclusion, if we become inclined to treat everyone we meet with good intentions, the Universe will listen and begin to expand our circle of real friends. People become how you perceive them to be in your life. If you want friends, they will become friends. If you want only acquaintances, where there's no invested meaningful connection, this is what the Universe will give you. This is not to say, you should befriend people whom you feel are not right. Common sense and your intuition should tell you this is a bad idea, but once the new acquaintance has proven their trustworthiness, the decision to consider them a Kenzoku friend is easy. Through the good times, transformations and issues, you never have to wonder about a Kenzoku's gift of love and loyalty.

  

 Who are your Kenzoku friends and why?

 Ellee Anthony

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